March 5 ~ 2011

I am reminded today of what a beautiful adoption story we have. Espen will be 2 soon. It was at the end of February that we found out about being selected by a beautiful young lady. It was an amazing journey and has been since then. These days I worry & wonder more about what kind of parent I am to a little boy who is TWO (and so independent). Our story of adoption never ends. It continues. We are the parents of a little boy who we adopted... and forever & always there is that!

We still have a relationship with Espen's birth mother. She is a lovely young woman and will always hold a very special place in our family. Her bravery & courage allowed us to have our beautiful son. She is amazing!

We'd love someday to adopt anyother child. We may never be able to afford it. Living in Nebraska we would have to start the paperwork & process all over. It is a long process. Somedays it is not important to have any more children. We can be forever happy with the "family" we have. Consider we have the young adults that are all part of our lives & family.

It is somedays amazing to consider we are parents. Some days it is very hard. I don't imagine it is any different for any other parent. I worry about the kind of child Espen will be. If he is getting the attention, the stimulation, the experiences he needs to become kind, compassionate & a good kid! I worry about discipline and how to do it consistently. I worry about his energy level & if I can keep up with him. I enjoy his humor, his smiles, his hugs, his sloppy kisses. Espen loves long baths & I enjoy sitting there with him. He loves being outside & I enjoy going out there for fresh air & discovery! I flat out enjoy being a mom.

The most challenging part somedays is the financial part. Being in debt from college & the loan to pay for the adoption, the mortgage, cars and suddenly deciding to drop to one income is financially destracting & stressful. But the reward of being with Espen all day is amazing. Even when he wears me down & breaks things! Of course there are days I dream about work & clean clothes! But I am rewarded by the sight of my baby, the growth I see day to day & the hugs & smiles I enjoy!

Espen is our son. Certainly genetics plays some role but environment & nurturing play a great role as well. He is well loved by many. And our adoption story continues....

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